The Dad Diaries
Raising Twins

Two at once

Milestones, logistics, and the particular arithmetic of raising twins — including why comparing them to each other will make you miserable.

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The Story Behind The Twin Diaries: Stella and Mia Meet Papa
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The Story Behind The Twin Diaries: Stella and Mia Meet Papa

Why I wrote a children's book about surrogacy for my twin daughters — and why representation in children's literature matters more than I realised.

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Raising Twins as a Dad: The Part Where There's Two of Them at Once
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Raising Twins as a Dad: The Part Where There's Two of Them at Once

Twins aren't one baby times two. They're a different sport entirely. The honest reality of raising two at once — the triage, the math, and what actually

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The Daily Mental Load of Raising Twins as a Dad (The Two Ledgers in My Head)
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The Daily Mental Load of Raising Twins as a Dad (The Two Ledgers in My Head)

With twins it's not just double the tasks — it's two separate sets of everything to track, compare, and remember, running in your head at the same time.

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Parenting Twins: Lessons in Patience and Persistence
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Parenting Twins: Lessons in Patience and Persistence

Practical and honest parenting twins tips for dads, from routines and patience to surviving the daily chaos of raising two kids at once.

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Twin Milestones: What to Expect (And What to Stop Comparing)
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Twin Milestones: What to Expect (And What to Stop Comparing)

Twin milestones don't follow a single timeline. A twin dad's honest guide to tracking development without falling into the comparison trap.

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What It's Really Like Being a Gay Dad of Twins
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What It's Really Like Being a Gay Dad of Twins

The real, unfiltered truth about being a gay dad of twins. The joy, the chaos, the questions, and what nobody prepares you for.

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Twins
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Twins

On having twins — what the word means before you have them, and what it means after. A gay dad's honest reflection.

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Exiting with the Twins: Getting My Daughters Home to Canada
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Exiting with the Twins: Getting My Daughters Home to Canada

What happens after your babies are born via surrogacy in Kenya? Joseph Tito walks through the passport, DNA, and citizenship process for getting his twins

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Having Twins: The Surrogacy Journey Birth Story
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Having Twins: The Surrogacy Journey Birth Story

The birth of Joseph Tito's twin daughters via surrogacy in Kenya — the hospital, the first moments, and what it felt like to finally become a dad.

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Preparing for the Twins
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Preparing for the Twins

The final weeks before Joseph Tito's twin daughters arrived via surrogacy — the preparation, the anxiety, and the strange calm before everything changed.

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