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Raising Twins

Double the chaos, double the love. Honest dispatches from the front lines of twin parenthood.

The Daily Mental Load of Raising Twins as a Dad
Raising Twins· February 20, 2025

The Daily Mental Load of Raising Twins as a Dad

Raising twins doubles everything — including the invisible mental load. A twin dad's honest look at the cognitive weight of parenting two kids at once.

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What It's Really Like Being a Gay Dad of Twins
Raising Twins· January 5, 2025

What It's Really Like Being a Gay Dad of Twins

Gay dad of twins Joseph Tito shares the honest, unfiltered reality — the invisible pressure, the identity shift, and the love that multiplies.

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Parenting Twins: Lessons in Patience and Persistence
Raising Twins· March 5, 2025

Parenting Twins: Lessons in Patience and Persistence

Parenting twins requires a specific kind of patience — not the aspirational kind from books, but the real kind you build at 6am when both kids are crying.

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Twin Milestones: What to Expect (And What to Stop Comparing)
Raising Twins· March 5, 2025

Twin Milestones: What to Expect (And What to Stop Comparing)

Twin milestones don't follow a single timeline. A twin dad's honest guide to tracking development without falling into the comparison trap.

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Twins: What the Word Actually Means
Raising Twins· January 15, 2019

Twins: What the Word Actually Means

Before I had twins, the word meant double. After I had twins, I understood that it doesn't mean double anything. It means something entirely its own.

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Having Twins: Our Surrogacy Journey
Raising Twins· 2019

Having Twins: Our Surrogacy Journey

The road to having twins through surrogacy — the decisions, the waiting, the fear, and the moment everything changed.

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Preparing for the Twins
Raising Twins· 2019

Preparing for the Twins

Getting ready for twins is a different kind of preparation. Not just the gear — the mindset, the relationship, the life you're about to leave behind.

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The Baby Registry: What We Actually Needed for Twins
Raising Twins· 2019

The Baby Registry: What We Actually Needed for Twins

Twin baby registries are overwhelming. Here's what we actually used, what we wasted money on, and what nobody tells you to add.

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Exiting with the Twins
Raising Twins· 2019

Exiting with the Twins

Leaving the hospital with twins for the first time. The car seats, the nerves, and the moment you realize there's no going back.

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Meeting My Baby Girls
Raising Twins· 2019

Meeting My Baby Girls

The moment I met Mia and Stella. Nothing prepares you for it. Not the books, not the classes, not the advice. Nothing.

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Traveling with Twins: What Actually Works
Raising Twins· 2024

Traveling with Twins: What Actually Works

Traveling with twins is a logistical operation. Here's what we've learned after years of airports, road trips, and hotel rooms with two kids.

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The Twin Dad Travel Checklist
Raising Twins· 2024

The Twin Dad Travel Checklist

Everything you actually need to pack and plan when traveling with twins. The checklist I wish I'd had on our first trip.

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