The Clinic
Inside the fertility clinic that guided the surrogacy journey.
The Decision
The medical facility that supported the entire surrogacy process . Walking into a fertility clinic as a single gay man is its own kind of brave.
This is the story that often goes untold. The messy, honest, real version of what it means to navigate the medical side of surrogacy.
The Reality
The clinic becomes your second home. Blood draws, ultrasounds, consultations — you learn the names of every nurse, every receptionist. You learn to read the doctor's face before they speak.
There are moments when you realize something has shifted. When the ordinary becomes extraordinary, or when the hard becomes harder than you expected.
The blog was the beginning. The book is the whole story.
Everything here started in my parents' basement at 3am. The Dad Diaries — the failed transfers, Kenya, the citizenship fight, and the postpartum depression nobody warns a father about — is published by Cormorant Books on 26 September.
What Happens Next
The clinic is where science meets hope. Where embryos are created, tested, and transferred . Where you sit in waiting rooms wondering if today is the day your life changes.
Whether you are navigating this for the first time or you have been here for a while, one thing is certain: the journey is rarely what you thought it would be.
Joseph Tito
Creator of The Dad Diaries. Gay dad of twins. Writing about fatherhood, surrogacy, and the beautiful mess of real life.
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