Random Thoughts
The Sh*t We Don’t Talk About
Unfiltered essays on parenting, queer identity, burnout and midlife. Not a self-help book. Closer to a late-night conversation with a friend who doesn’t flinch.
“Raw, emotional, funny, and real—Random Thoughts covers everything from parental meltdowns to queer identity with heart and honesty. Joseph Tito doesn’t just tell his story—he tells our story. I hope it changes your life, makes you laugh, and helps you see humanity a little differently.”
— Todrick Hall, artist and LGBTQ+ trailblazer
About the book
In a world saturated with perfectly curated feeds and relentless “live your best life” mantras, Random Thoughts offers something else: unvarnished honesty.
This isn’t a self-help book full of promises to fix your life. It’s an intimate conversation with a candid friend who isn’t afraid to drop a few f-bombs, share the messy truths, and leave you feeling seen in the middle of the chaos.
What’s inside
- The relentless, rewarding, genuinely exhausting work of parenting twin daughters
- The stealthy onset of burnout, and how to recognise it before it flattens you
- The facade of social media and what it quietly does to your head
- Unexpected lessons pulled out of ordinary moments — yes, including french fries
- A hard look at clichés like “everything happens for a reason”
- Money, success, love, midlife, and the parts of all four nobody says out loud
Why this book exists
Because it’s time we talked about the unspoken and the messy. Random Thoughts isn’t offering solutions. It’s sharing experience, and finding some relief in the fact that other people have been there too. It came before The Dad Diaries — the memoir — and it’s where a lot of that voice was worked out.
Get your copy
Signed copies ship direct from Joseph. Amazon carries the unsigned retail edition.
Frequently asked questions
What is Random Thoughts: The Sh*t We Don't Talk About about?
It is a collection of unfiltered personal essays by Joseph Tito on parenting, LGBTQ+ life, burnout, money, midlife and mental health. It is written as honest reflection rather than advice.
Is Random Thoughts the same book as The Dad Diaries?
No. Random Thoughts is an essay collection published before the memoir. The Dad Diaries: Because Real Risks Are Worth Taking is Joseph's memoir, published by Cormorant Books on 26 September 2026.
Who is Random Thoughts for?
Parents who are tired of the highlight reel, LGBTQ+ readers, and anyone who has wrestled with identity, parenthood, self-doubt or the pressure to have it all figured out.
Is there a signed edition?
Yes. Signed copies ship direct from Joseph. Amazon carries the standard retail edition.
Did Random Thoughts hit a bestseller list?
It reached #1 in Amazon's Gay Biographies category.